I realised that in my past few posts I keep coming back to this one point- Be More Present. It is such an important way to get through a lot of situations without loosing yourself. This is something that I have had to work at consistently and consciously over the years and is still a work in progress. Bad news or a bad day/ situation/ experience can have a knock on effect in all areas of your life. By giving yourself permission to feel sad/ upset/ angry/ lost etc you are able to reflect and heal in a more productive way and you will not get “stuck” feeling like you cant move forward. Being present in difficult situations allows for the greatest healing and growth. Here are 5 things I do to stay more present and hopefully they can help you discover your own individually catered steps!
- Breathe and enjoy nature- Im not saying go and hug a tree by any means here, but nature and being outside can be really therapeutic. Take a walk and really appreciate the things around you. There really is beauty all around you if you choose to see it! Concentrating on your breathing is calming and a great way to being more present when you are overwhelmed or feeling a little anxious. Taking in deep breaths and really focusing on the action of filling up your lungs with air and slowly breathing out and releasing all your negative emotions and worries can be a great exercise that you can do literally anywhere and at anytime!
2. Be in touch with all your senses- When you feel anxious or overwhelmed you can sometimes feel a little numb. The most effective way (I find) to be less zoned out and more present is to to get in touch with all your senses and to be consciously aware of them. Remind yourself to feel the ground beneath your feet. Don’t just eat but savour every bite of your meal. Really enjoy the smell of coffee in the morning, put on your favourite perfume or take out your best bath oils for some ‘just because’ me time. Listen to the sounds around you and be aware of your surroundings and all the beautiful colours and sights. This takes some practice but trust me it can do wonders for you.
3. Screen Detox- Technology is an important part of everyday life. Especially if your job requires you to be tech savvy at all hours of the day. However taking some time away from your phone, laptop, computer iPads etc is really important to be more engaged with people you care about and even more so with yourself. Set aside certain times of the day where you are screen free. At meal times with your family or perhaps when you are out with your friends, last thing at night and first thing in the morning. Take small steps and start off doing whatever you can manage, but really work at it so you create memories and really take care of your wellbeing. Checking social media can wait a few minutes or an hour, and unimportant work related issues can be dealt with at work.
4. Be in touch with how you are feeling- To try to reflect on what might be the root cause/ instigator or catalyst for certain feelings is an important way to getting to know yourself better and to understand your emotions and feelings. It also lets you identify when something doesn’t feel quite right and when its a good time to reach out to someone for a little support. Whatever you feel or however you might be feeling remind yourself its ok. You don’t have to always be put together and happy, especially not for other people at the detriment of your own wellbeing. God created you with every emotion, for you to feel and experience them and in turn has given you tools to discover how best to manage these feelings and emotions. Trust your intuition and gut feelings and don’t numb out or ignore them.
5. Be Grateful- Being grateful puts a positive perspective on every situation. Try to incorporate being grateful into your daily life. We can sometimes get so lost or overwhelmed with a negative situation that it tends to take over all the positive things around you. be actively grateful for all the small and big things in your life every morning when you wake up, and every evening before going to bed. You can start off with the obvious things we can forget to be grateful for like a roof over your head, clean water, your loved ones etc. Then build up to more specific things like being grateful for a sunny morning, the lady that helped you get your pram onto the bus or the way you handled a difficult situation at work. Whatever it may be, being grateful makes you appreciate all the little things in life despite the testing times you might be going through.
These are some of the things I have incorporated into my life that help me gather myself and be more present, this is especially important if you have people/ children you are responsible for or when being overwhelmed starts affecting other aspects of your daily life.
I would love to know your thoughts and the things you might do that might help others that I have not mentioned. I will leave links to the other blogs where I have mentioned being present!
Thank you for reading!
reflect. love. heal. always x
Brown Girl N
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