It is so easy to talk yourself out of doing anything that you feel is too challenging.
For example in a business meeting it’s so much easier to tell yourself that the amazing new idea you have thought of doesn’t need to be spoken about rather than actually speaking up about it.
Or that you don’t need to join a club if you don’t have the basic skills or experience to start.
Even if you can see someone is in need of assistance it’s so easy to walk away thinking someone else will notice them and give them a hand.
Putting yourself out there, making an effort to be seen and heard and pushing yourself in a new territory can at times seem like a terrifying idea.
But giving in to those fears places you in a catch 22 scenario, where you need confidence to try new things and only by doing new things can you gain confidence.
So what can you do? How can you follow your gut instinct especially if your doubts speak otherwise?
Well for a start try not to overthink of everything that can go wrong.
At times our worries can spiral out of control and our fears end up unrealistically exaggerated.
Try and approach new challenges as an experiment, a sort of research you are doing about yourself with a ‘what’s the worse that can happen?’ attitude.
Because even if the worse was to happen (the realistic ones), it is not the end of the world, and no matter how bad it can go remember there is always an up to every down and the best bit was you tried.
You may even surprise yourself and do much better than you anticipated because you are amazing, and there is a reason you were drawn to the challenge in the first place.
Your fears and doubts are really just wired in your mindset, you need to take a step back and approach every new task as if you are convincing someone else to.
It is so easy to support your loved ones in any new endeavours they wish to embark on, to provide them with words of wisdom and comfort, so save a little encouragement for yourself and simply give it a go.
You will do amazingly well because that’s simply who you are.
Reflect. Love. Heal.
Brown Girl R.