I cannot stress how important it is to create safe boundaries that protect your emotional, spiritual and physical wellbeing.
It isn’t easy to do this, takes practice and you will undergo trial and error until you understand what is okay for you and what isn’t.
Not having clear boundaries in place can often lead to others being able to take advantage of us and can leave you feeling violated and hurt. (Please read previous blogs we have done on boundaries and the importance of them)
Anyone that claims to love you or care for you needs to be aware of you boundaries and respect them.
If someone insists on pushing and crossing boundaries you have clearly set then you need to recognise that and still put yourself and your needs first.
For example someone can insist on doing something you have made clear you are not comfortable with physically or intimately, if it makes you feel uncomfortable or their reactions make you feel like your boundary is the problem I can assure you it isn’t.
They are waving a big red flag and you need to see it for what it is.
If you have made your schedule clear to them and are busy yet they still insist on seeing you, or turn up uninvited, whatever excuse they give you thats something you need to be cautious of.
If at any time you are pushed into doing something, going somewhere, meeting someone you have made clear you don’t want to do, go or see then that is a red flag.
If the relationship s moving too fast and you are anxious or unsure and you have made it clear you want to take things slow, go at your pace and do not cater to the timings or expectations of others.
If at any point someone tries to control where you go, doesn’t like your friends and family, tries to change the way you look or the job you love take a step back.
A big step back and get in touch with yourself.
Everything that makes you uniquely you is something you should never give up for someone else.
Anyone that tries to move you away from people that care about you should be reminded that they are a part of your life and that will not change.
Go with how you feel and what feels right.
Address any feelings you have that make you feel pressured, anxious or uncomfortable and rather than adjusting your barriers, reinforce them until they make you feel safe again.
Because your well being is your responsibility.
Your boundaries should always be established, communicated and honoured in all circumstances.
Never allow someone else to disrespect you by not respecting your boundaries
Because you are worth more than you know and are deserving of being loved the way you need to be.
respect. love. heal always
Brown Girl N