It can take time and conscious effort to learn to love the skin you are in, be your authentic self and be true to yourself.
And this is just for you!
As you are growing and working on your confidence and self-esteem, you may mirror others likes and accept others opinions just to fit in or avoid upsetting someone.
I am not a hot drink drinker as such. Which is weird as I am British Asian and in both cultures a hot drink (usually tea in large quantities) and getting together for a chat is a big part of the culture.
Even the process of “putting on the kettle” or keeping your eye on a strong milky pot of tea with the addition of a careful blend of spices plays a big part of everyday life and big events.
I enjoy a cup of tea now and again and sometimes crave a strong cup of coffee but I really felt that not incorporating a ritualistic cup of hot drink in my day to day life meant there was something wrong with me.
I have embraced the fact that I love cold drinks, iced teas and iced coffees are my thing and that is a part of me.
When you are able to accept the parts of you that make you uniquely you, you feel more free and able to embrace life and the things that bring you joy.
If someone that cares about you can make you feel at ease around them but more importantly at ease with yourself that is someone who is waving the green flag of true acceptance without judgement.
If you can let go of your serious self and be silly around them that can be really liberating.
If you can express your goals and fears comfortably without hesitating and feeling safe, you have a true friend in that person.
It is so important to love and accept yourself as you are first so that you can express your authentic self with those that are deserving of it.
Invest time in getting to know yourself first. Be comfortable with your likes and dislikes. Learn to love your flaws and your little unique traits.
And then surround yourself with people that love you as you are, whose company brings you joy and with people that accept you as you are.
It can be really exhausting and draining acting or being someone that appeases others.
If you are not true to yourself, it can be difficult to build and sustain genuine relationships with others as the are built on false perceptions and lies.
Always be honest with yourself first and then with others without the fear of being judged or feeling less than.
Because your uniqueness is your strength and you are amazing just as you are and if you find someone that embraces you as you are wholly then do the same for them.
reflect. love. heal always
Brown Girl N (Nida xxx)