Every long lasting, healthy relationship takes investment of time and effort to grow and flourish.
Someone that really goes out of their way to get to know you (in a non creepy, controlling or stalkerish way) is someone that is in for the long haul.
It is crucial before embarking on any new relationship however to know yourself first.
To explore your likes and dislikes without the influence of a partner.
To feel comfortable with yourself and confident with the things you love to do and what makes you happy so others can explore these with you.
Loving yourself and understanding what makes you feel loved is the first step to showing others how you need to be loved effectively.
Someone that is getting to know you will make mistakes, buy you a gift you don’t like or suggest things that you think are a definite no no.
However making mistakes will not deter them to try again, to keep figuring out what makes you smile and light up and not use “I don’t know” as an excuse to sit back and not try.
Its the small things they make a note of in every day life that you might not notice but they do.
The passing comments you make of somewhere you would love to visit and someday they take you.
The favourite treat or drink they know will cheer you up on a bad day.
The thoughtful gifts that mean so much more than the expensive gifts that take effort and create memories for life.
Building relationships is about building memories, the touching moments, the joyful surprises and the way someone makes you feel.
Building a special connection requires making effort to know you on a deeper level and really prioritising that.
If someone makes the effort to get to know you intimately to cater to your needs, to make you feel loved, special, safe and important hold onto that person and embrace the green flags they are showering you with.
Because you are special, important and loved.
Being loved is more than just words, they need to be followed by consistent and meaningful actions.
And that is something that everyone deserves.
reflect. love. heal always
Nida (Brown Girl N)