It is important to own your actions and take responsibility when you have wronged someone.
Sometimes you might not be in the wrong during a conflict however, it is always beneficial to reflect on every miscommunication or argument to see how you might have played a part in the way things panned out.
How you could have done or said things better.
Because it takes two people to make any relationship work.
It is not okay if it is always one person taking the blame, being apologetic or always in the wrong. This will result in resentment and an unhealthy relationship because there is no balance of actions and consequences.
If someone cares about you, mending the relationship is always more important then being right.
Admitting when you are wrong takes reflection, courage and really working against your ego or stubborn nature.
Someone that can offer you an apology when they have hurt your feelings or upset you, regardless of whether they were right or if they intended to hurt you or not, is someone that is invested in your wellbeing and that is a beautiful green flag to embrace.
It is important to note here that clearly expressing what your values and morals are and making sure that your boundaries are communicated gives the other person the opportunity to right their wrongs.
You cannot expect apologies if you haven’t clearly and respectfully communicated which actions and words are upsetting and not okay for you.
Receiving a genuine apology can often mark the beginning of the healing process of any negative emotions related to a particular event or conflict.
This in turn can carve out the path of forgiveness and ultimately moving on from the argument.
However the best apology is always change in actions and behaviour which is a reflection of how genuine the apology was.
Constant apologies for abusive behaviour and actions that is detrimental for your wellbeing is not something that should be accepted in toxic relationships.
Apologies should allow for you to learn something about yourself and the relationship.
It should be the step to repairing and building something better to strengthen your relationship and do things better next time.
Because every healthy relationship requires work and apologies followed by forgiveness can often be the road to building stronger bonds of love and respect between people.
reflect. love. heal always
(Brown Girl N)