Personal Boundaries to put in place 8: I am not responsible for others happiness. BGR

I truly hope you are all well and healthy during these trying times.

While we are isolating and self distancing even when the days are getting longer and the sun is shining brighter, we need to seize the opportunity while staying at home to really focus on, and work to better our well being.

Having busy schedules and hectic days can have us being lost in doing things just for the sake of doing them and not really taking the moment to see what suits us, and to see how we really feel about them.

So while we are home and the days seem to blur into one another we have no excuses to neglect ourselves and our well being no matter who else is living with us.

Bullet Journal Quote – ‘Personal boundaries to put in place I am not responsible for others happiness’ BGR

Being in any relationship, I think we can all agree that one of the best parts are when we can enjoy each other’s company.

When we bring out the best in each other and make the most of spending quality time together.

When we know we can rely on each other during good times as well as bad situations.

And every relationship consists of some sort of compromises, that is expected on both sides but when you are consistently compromising to make the other person happy, and putting a hold on your own happiness than you are not compromising but sacrificing.

The only thing you do end up compromising however is yourself.

Bullet Journal Quote – ‘Personal boundaries to put in place we should life others and not be burdened by them’ BGR

We are all on a journey of self love whether or not we are aware of it and no matter what stage we are at.

And sooner or later we will understand that our well being, self care and happiness is solely our own responsibility.

Sometimes other’s issues and problems end up being too overwhelming and their burdens too heavy for them to carry. And it may seem like you’re the only person who is able to lift them up and help them out.

Only you can get through to them and not only assist them with their issues but also make them feel better about themselves.

Bullet Journal Quote – ‘Personal boundaries to put in place happiness is truly attained from within’ BGR

And while this role is very important and valuable to possess this is only partly true, you can help but you cannot resolve issues others have.

The main bulk of it is their own responsibility and likewise you can help them feel better but happiness is truly attained from within.

We all have qualities that make us good friends, family and partners; we may be good listeners, advice givers or even amazing at problem solving but if all we do is lift others and we do not get lifted by them but drained from them, then we need to acknowledge the relationship for what it is and put in place boundaries that look out for our well-being.

Happiness is a state of mind accessible to anyone who is willing to put in the effort to gain it. And even though putting a smile on someone’s face is a beautiful trait to have, you need to make sure it isn’t at the expense of your own.

Reflect. Love. Heal.

Roohi xXx

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