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Part one of the final post for recognising red flags is up. “Abusive traits” posted by Brown Girl R. “As hard as it may be being in an abusive relationship, coming out and even recognising the relationship for what it is, is no easy matter. At the same time it is also important to note that the abuse emerging in a relationship will not be loud and bashful, it will not be wearing a label and screaming abuse at you. An abuser will always at first take their time with you, test the waters to see what they can get away with, and slowly try to break away the bricks of your boundaries in order to get you at your most vulnerable state. Understanding that you are in an abusive relationship is not a reflection of your weakness or stupidity, rather it is the audacity of the perpetrator to have taken advantage of you. For the relationship to get to a point where the abuse has taken over, there can many steps the abuser takes to ensure that they can rely on you to keep holding on the bond you have with them despite the drastic measures they may take to exploit you.” Read more by clicking on the link above. If you feel like you are in a controlled and abusive relationship or you think someone is please talk to family members or friends. Do not isolate yourself and look at our help page for services available for those who are in need of them. You are not alone and you can come out, you can! Reflect. Love. Heal. Brown Girl R. . . . . . . . #abuse #abusiverelationship #abusesurvivor #redflags #redflagwarning #relationshipadvice #womenempowerment #empoweringwomen #empowerment #boundaries #breakingboundaries #womenwhowrite #blogger #ukblogger #bloggerunder1k #illustration #doodle #bujo #bujoinspiration #wordpress #huffpost #thursdaymotivation #thursdaythoughts #narcissisticabuse #narcissist

Part 8 of the relationship red flags watch out for: controlling behaviour up now! Like in the bio! "The beginning of a relationship is a time where you’re getting to know each other and discovering each other on an intimate level. So during this period it is natural and even a good thing to focus on the relationship and spend a lot of quality time together. However, being your own person in a relationship, having your own hobbies, goals, circle of friends and time to yourself is crucial for your growth and well-being. Controlling behaviour is a big red flag that leads to a very unhealthy or even abusive relationship as lots of boundaries are crossed and not respected. Controlling behaviour can start off as being subtle, or guised in the form of love or care. and even justified as such. It is always important that you are a valued member of any relationship where someone is considerate of your needs, goals and opinions. No one should ever make decisions for you or undermine your goals and opinions. A healthy relationship is about someone allowing you to flourish and grow into the best version of you with support love and kindness. You should never have to prove your love for someone by doing things their way or loosing yourself and those you care about to cater for someone else. Someone else should only add joy, security and happiness to your life and overall wellbeing. It is so important to be complete and full of all the joy, self-esteem, confidence, love and security you need before embarking on a new adventure with someone else. Because you deserve the best and you have all the things you need within you. reflect. love. heal Brown Girl N xxx . . . . . . . . . . . . . #abuse #anxiety #overwhelmed #struggle #blogpost #newblog #browngirlblogger #manipulation #control #controlling #controllingrelationship #abusiverelationship #unhealthylove #toxic #toxicpeople #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #bulletjournalquote #bulletjournalideas #bulletjournal #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #quote #bujo #doodle #handlettering #puppet #outofcontrol #handlettering

Part 8 “Their relationship with others is questionable”has just been posted by Brown Girl R. What do you think of people whose relationship with you is nothing short of amazing but with everyone else there are issues?? “If someone is dismissive and unnecessarily rude towards their parents, those who gave them life then their nature, if different towards you is highly suspicious. If those close to you do not feel too comfortable around your other half but cant quite place a finger on exactly what their issue with them, then it is very important for you to take a step back to be more aware. Our intuition is a very strong defense mechanism and should never be ignored or dismissed. Everyone has a past and it is very important for those who have toxic people in their lives to be able to set and reinforce healthy boundaries. But setting boundaries does not mean giving others a taste of their medicine nor should it force a person to change who they are. On a the contrary, setting boundaries allows us to preserve who we are without allowing others to take away from that. If you are serious about someone and you want to see a future with them then their relationship with others shows you the multifaceted personality they have.” Read more by clicking on the link above 👆. . . . . . . . . . . . #redflags #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #dismissive #boundaries #healthyboundaries #relationship #relationshipgoals #newrelationship #relationshipadvice #startputtingyourselffirst #ukbloggers #brownbloggers #bloggerunder5k #illustration #questions #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #empowerment #motivation #sayingno #wordsofwisdom #wordpress #huffpostgram

New blog up on the red flag series! Link in the bio have a read and leave a comment below if there is anything you recognise as a red flag that we havent covered yet! "Relationship Red Flags to keep an eye out for: They're constantly testing your boundaries. I cannot stress how important it is to create safe boundaries that protect your emotional, spiritual and physical wellbeing. It isn’t easy to do this, takes practice and you will undergo trial and error until you understand what is okay for you and what isn’t. Not having clear boundaries in place can often lead to others being able to take advantage of us and can leave you feeling violated and hurt. (Please read previous blogs we have done on boundaries and the importance of them) Anyone that claims to love you or care for you needs to be aware of you boundaries and respect them. If someone insists on pushing and crossing boundaries you have clearly set then you need to recognise that and still put yourself and your needs first." To continue reading head over to www.musingsofbrowngirls.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . #blogger #blogpost #browngirlblogger #browngirlsblog #bulletjournal #bulletjournalideas #journal #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #quote #bulletjournalideas #bujo #handlettering #doodle #bujoideas #anxiety #overwhelmed #reallove #advice #selfworth #selfesteemboost #selfconfidence #relationshipgoals #divorce #redflags #relationshipredflags #boundaries #toxicpeople #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

We’re already on the 6th blog of our ‘Recognising red flag series’ Today’s post “They have a massive sense of entitlement” is up now by Brown Girl R. “A relationship between two people can only grow and prosper when enriched from both parties. What is not OK is when what is contributed to the relationship by one is not reciprocated by the other. When the one who is the recipient of all the love, care, time and attention feels that s/he is worthy yet doesn’t feel the need to prioritise the other person. When the gratitude has left the relationship a large part of acknowledgment, worth and value of the other person is lost. When someone feels an entitlement in any relationship then in turn what they have actually done is taken away the rights of the other person. Relationships are about give and take but it cannot take away from who you are nor should it give you a sense of low self esteem.” Prioritising is the key not entitlement, do you agree? Read more by clicking on the link above 👆. . . . . . . . . #entitlement #entitlementissues #entitledpeople #redflags #recognisingredflags #redflagseries #ukbloggers #ukblogger #brownblogger #bloggerunder1k #womenempowerment #womenwhowrite #illustration #relationshipgoals #relationships #relationshipissues #huffpostgram #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #balloons #doodles #bujo #bujoideas #bujoinspiration

New post up on the blog! Link in the bio "Relationship Red Flags to keep an eye out for 5: They constantly deny, criticise, or dismiss you. BGN In any relationship, it is vital for your wellbeing to grow and blossom as an individual as well as together. When your opinions are not heard, your views criticised, your truths questioned and you as a person are dismissed in a relationship please do not ignore these red flags. Whenever you feel that there are different unspoken rules and double standards in the relationship these do need to be addressed no matter how uncomfortable the conversation. If you are not allowed to openly express your feelings or when you do express them they are dismissed, denied or you are told that you are being over sensitive/ looking too much into it, acknowledge that this is a problem and it will really start affecting your self -esteem." To continue reading head over to www.musingsofbrowngirls.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #blogpost #browngirlblogger #browngirls #relationshipgoals #divorce #anxiety #advice #selfworth #selfesteemboost #selfconfidence #womenwhowrite #artlovers #doodle #bujoideas #bulletjournal #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #quote #healing #bulletjournalideas #redflags #relationshipredflags #unhealthyrelationships #toxicpeople #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #wordsofwisdom

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