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January 23, 2020January 23, 2020 musingsofbrowngirls

Relationship Red Flags to watch out for 10: Abusive traits part 1. BGR

January 7, 2020January 7, 2020 musingsofbrowngirls

Relationship Red Flags to keep an eye out for 5: They constantly deny, criticise, or dismiss you. BGN

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We hope you are all well during these uncertain times. Please continue to practice social distancing as that is the best thing we can do for everyone especially those most vulnerable. On a lighter note personal boundaries part 4 is up now. “Value your own opinions” As we are staying at home we are able to focus more on ourselves and understand ourselves better. Value who we are and more importantly value our thoughts and opinions despite what others around us think. “If what you think and how you feel about something is different to others than does not necessarily mean there is a right or wrong just that there is a difference of opinion, and that is okay as well. Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions and we should respect that but we shouldn't let the opinions of others undermine or under value our own. A fashion trend that has everyone buying a certain item does not mean that you have to like it, whether or not it suits you, because what matters is the confidence you carry in the clothes that you wear. And that needs to develop in the confidence you carry when making life choices, whether or not they end up being successful, because there is no such thing as wrong choices only lessons to learn and grow from.” . . . . . . . . . . . . #boundaries #healthyboundaries #personalboundaries #loveyourself #selflove #selfcare #valueyourself #valueyouropinion #selfvalue #blogger #ukblogger #bloggerunder1k #socialdistancing #handlettering #illustrations #calligraphy #moderncalligraphy #handwritten #healthylifestyle #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #youmatter #bujo #bujoinspiration

We hope you are safe and healthy and focusing on your wellbeing during these challenging times. New blog is now up on our site (a little later than usual) if you have time for a spot of reading to build up and strengthen your boundaries! Personal Boundaries to put in place 3 : I am not responsible for others behaviour. BGN People that you love and care for become an integral and important part of your life and to some extent an extension of you. If you are someone that wants the best for those you love you can feel responsible for them in a way that can become unhealthy and can overstep boundaries that you might not even consciously have in place. This in turn results in internalising others behaviours particularly in toxic situations and relationships where the blame is either enforced upon or you are conditioned to take on that blame. This can really affect your self-confidence and self-esteem and leave you feeling unnecessarily anxious, on edge and confused. Feeling responsible for others behaviour might be something you have inherited over time. For example being an elder sibling does place more responsibility on you and you can become more aware of your younger siblings behaviour but feel the need to ‘save them from making mistakes’. What we need to remember in all relationships and circumstances is that the behaviour of others is not your responsibility. Their actions and consequences of their behaviour is a part of their own journey and growth. Their mannerisms, actions, words and how they conduct themselves is about them and never a reflection on you whether thats your family, partner or friend." To continue reading head over to www.musingsofbrowngirls.com Reflect. Love. Heal always Nida xxx . . . . . . . . . . . #blogpost #newblog #selfhelptips #selfconfidence #selfesteemboost #personalboundaries #healthyboundaries #wellbeing #selfisolation #socialdistancing #reading #womenwhowrite #wordsofwisdom #anxietyrelief #anxiety #toxicity #toxicpeople #healthyrelationships #bffgoals #connected #strength #challenges #lockdown

Lesson 2 of our “Personal boundaries you put in place: Don’t comprise your values for others” is up now by Brown Girl R. #buildingboundaries is an ongoing journey but it needs to be done where we make sure we are growing into the best version of ourselves and not compromising who we are. “Change is inevitable, I would say it is necessary, we need to change with the times, and we need to change as we grow but our morals and values, the foundation of our principles should always remain true to who we are. We do need to act accordingly to others and make sure that our boundaries aren’t overstepped and we aren’t taken advantage of. We need to make sure that toxic people are not affecting our well being. But while doing so we also need to make sure that this does not result in changes that make us someone we are not. People that have wronged you do not need to treated the same way but they need to be treated in the way that best suits you. If someone by nature is aggressive in their mannerism it is okay for you to say ‘I’m sorry but I do not want to have a conversation with you in this manner’, rather than answering the way they are and having the situation escalate negatively.” . . . . . . . #personalboundaries #buildingboundaries #healthyboundaries #valueyourself #positivechanges #growthmindset #illustration #bujo #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #handlettering #ukbloggers #empoweringwomen #empowerment #bloggerunder1k

The final segment to our green flag series “You share the same values by Brown Girl R. is up now. How did you like this series, what do you think are important #greenflags we should appreciate in our loved ones? “Who we are by nature is something we cannot change, but our aspirations, values goals and ideology is something we choose to strive for and if that is the common ground shared by our loved one then it is an important green flag to acknowledge. How we pursue the lifestyle we desire to have might not be the same, but having the same core beliefs and understanding are things that can make our relationship that much easier. If the sort of lifestyle you both want to lead is similar then not only are you able to support one another but you can progress together as one unit. You are able to move forward without conflict as the aims and goals you have are shared.”. . . . . . . . . #greenflags #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #relationshipgreenflags #commonground #appreciationpost #relationships #lifecoach #wordpress #empowerment #empoweringwomen #loveyourself #ukbloggers #womensupportingwomen #ted #illustration #moderncalligraphy #calligraphy #handlettering

Blog 12 green flags to embrace ready to read now! (Link in the bio) "Green flags to embrace 12: They can admit to being wrong and apologise when needed. BGN It is important to own your actions and take responsibility when you have wronged someone. Sometimes you might not be in the wrong during a conflict however, it is always beneficial to reflect on every miscommunication or argument to see how you might have played a part in the way things panned out. How you could have done or said things better. Because it takes two people to make any relationship work. It is not okay if it is always one person taking the blame, being apologetic or always in the wrong. This will result in resentment and an unhealthy relationship because there is no balance of actions and consequences. If someone cares about you, mending the relationship is always more important then being right. Admitting when you are wrong takes reflection, courage and really working against your ego or stubborn nature. Someone that can offer you an apology when they have hurt your feelings or upset you, regardless of whether they were right or if they intended to hurt you or not, is someone that is invested in your wellbeing and that is a beautiful green flag to embrace." To continue reading head over to www.musingsofbrowngirls.com xxx reflect. love. heal always Nida . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .#blogpost #womenwhowrite #wordsofwisdom #goodfriends #greenflags #relationshipquotes #relationshipgoals #relationshiptips #relax #love #heal #heartbreak #redflags #forgive #forgiveness #build #strength #boundaries #bffgoals #togetherforever #bulletjournalquote #bujoideas #bulletjournaldoodles #handlettering #calligraphy #moderncalligraphy

Welcome spring! Spring, the birth of a new season and new blooms. The wake of a new year from hibernation. When the year finally blossoms and we shed away the old us and begin decluttering our homes and old habits. Spring reminds us that any goals and aims made at the beginning of the year can start again at spring. And that is because we are consistently growing, evolving and understanding ourselves better. We wish you all a prosperous new season filled with blessings and blooms. Reflect. Love. Heal. BGR . . . . . . . . . #march #hellomarch #welcomemarch #newseason #hellospring #welcomespring #bulletjournal #bujo #bujomonthlyspread #blossom #bloom #moderncalligraphy #cherryblossom

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